Week 23 – My turn for silence

This week I accepted the challenge to be silent and sit in silence for 48 hours or more. No speaking, no texting, no TV, no audio books, no facebook, no internet – nothing but me and my mind for as long as I can do it. My personality type thinks first – What will I do for 48 hours in silence? I know be silent is what we do but I’ve never sat still for anything like that.

It was amazing! I wrote down thoughts as they came to mind, solved some internal questions on why some things in my life bug me more than I think the should and made me realize that although I was out of touch not mu really happened that mattered in my life. I missed my wife and family a lot but they  approved and let me have some me time.

I will do this again and try for 96 hours but do it outside in the countryside instead of in the trunk of my car. No I really didn’t stay in the trunk of my car – just checking if you were paying attention.

How was your week?

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My name I Michael Puffer and I always keep my promises.

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Week 22a – More tools and confirmation

This week brought me another expert in the matter of developing our mind to enhance my life. Wallace Wattles is a name I have heard of but this week got to hear and read some of his amazing thoughts. Further reinforcement of the keys to success we are learning in the Master Key Mastermind Alliance (MKMMA). Wallace tells us we can have anything we want in our lives by thinking and believing in it with strength and clarity. This week I focused on abundance in my work and in my family. This was one of the most profitable weeks ever in my business and in my life. My wife and I just seemed to be happier and spent more quality time. We watched the movie “Kubo and the Two Strings’ twice again and found more things in the movie that we missed before. “Kubo and the Two Strings” is a great movie for all ages.

I am preparing for a long sit in silence of 48 to 36 hours to do what I call “Detoxing the women-777861__480Mind” by limiting any and all exposure to so called regular life. No phone, TV, Radio, Social Media – you get the picture. Similar to a detox of the digestive system by green-smoothie-2611410__480eliminating bad or marginal foods and concentrating on removing waste products from the body this sit in silence will eliminate all distractions and time wasting products and activities from the mind. I can’t stop thinking about what will I do during this sit. The answer will appear just as soon as I begin so there is nothing to worry about – that’s  the #1 time waster – Worry. This will be good.

the-thinker-489753__480What are your thoughts on where a good sit in silence would be? What would it take for you to carve out 48 to 36 hours for yourself and think?

 

 

My name is Michael Puffer and I always keep my promises.

Week 22 – Mastering emotions

This week the Seven laws of the mind coincide with the reading of Scroll Six of Og Mandino’s The Greatest salesman in The World in many ways. In my opinion “salesman” is a metaphor for living one’s own life to the fullest and the greatest “sale” in the world is the one we make to ourselves to believe with every fiber of our being that we are born with greatness inside of us all. Our challenge is to convince ourselves that it is still true and that each day we begin a new life, embrace each day with love in our hearts, persist in our endeavors until successful completion, believe that we are nature’s greatest miracle and we can control our emotions because that keeps the door open to our greatest future.

Here is how link the seven laws of the mind and scroll six together.

Law of Substitution

We cannot think about 2 things at the same time. If a negative thought enters your mind ~ try to think about God instead. If that is too big a reach at the time, use any fond memory or other pleasant thought. Jesus, the Master Teacher, said, “Resist not evil” ~ meaning turn from it and think about something else instead.

Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (page 80)

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By substituting positive thoughts for the negative thoughts we can change our mindset and outlook almost immediately.

Law of Relaxation

Mental effort defeats itself ~ exactly the opposite of physical effort. A relaxed, calm state of mind, is the only doorway to progress mentally. Relaxation of thought is the only access to Infinite Intelligence.

Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (page 82)

“Henceforth I will recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind, and in me. From this moment I am prepared to control whatever personality awakes in me each day. I will master my moods I will control my destiny.”

If we recognize and understand the “mystery” of the moods we can realize that our moods are in our control and therefore not get upset or animated when someone’s bad mood arrives. In other words – relax.

 Law of Practice

Practice makes perfect. The 5Ps – Perfect Practice Prevents Poor Performance. Our bewilderment of magnificence in others, upon further inspection, finds…as Wooden shares ‘you’ll find most of it is practice, the rest of it is work.’ With practice of the correct things, we improve ~ on the other 6 Laws of the Mind.

 Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (many passages including Page 81)

Many passages in scroll six provide examples of practicing overcoming or rejecting negative thoughts and actions with positive thoughts and actions.

“If I become overconfident I will recall my failures, If I overindulge I will think of past hungers, If I feel complacency I will remember my competition.”

Law of Forgiveness

To access the Divine and connect the subconscious to the Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent Creator we must forgive everyone and anyone to clear the channel. There can be no connection to the Divine mind where anger or resentment against a brother or sister, justified or not, exists.

Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (many passages including Page 81) 

“And with this knowledge I will also understand and recognize the moods of him on whom I call. I will make allowances for his anger and irritation of today for he knows not the secret of controlling his mind.”

By living with forgiveness for any interaction I clear the channel for relationships in the future. Holding a grudge does nothing but prolong the ill mood.

Law of Dual Thought

Thought is a combination of ideation and feeling. We can attach any feeling to a thought we want.

 Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (many passages including Page 80)

“If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice”, If I feel poverty I will think of wealth, If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.”

Law of Subconscious

As soon as the subconscious accepts the idea it becomes a demand and it works constantly, 24-7, to manifest demand ~ accessing a reservoir of infinite resources.

Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (many passages including Page 82)

Throughout scroll six the phrase “Today I will be master of my emotions” is repeated along with other phrase and this one is my favorite. “Today I control my destiny, and my destiny is to become the greatest salesman in the world! I will become master of myself. I will become great.

Law of GrowthLaw-of-Growth

Whatever we think about grows. What we forget atrophies.

Scroll six – “Today I will be master of my emotions” (many passages including Page 78, 79)

Scroll six screams of the Law of Growth by providing numerous examples to turn negative thoughts, feelings and emotion around to the positive. Also if we get “to big for our britches” (Thanks Mom!) scroll six tells us how to reign in ourselves to be more grateful and humble.

The beginning if scroll six shows us these immutable facts of life.

“The Tides advance, the tides recede. Winter goes and summer comes. Summer wanes and the cold increases. The sun rises, the sun sets. The moon is full, the moon is black. The birds arrive, the birds depart. Flowers bloom, flowers fade, Seeds are sown, harvests are reaped. All nature is a circle of moods and I am part of nature and so, like the tides, my moods will rise, my moods will fall. We are just like nature but we can’t control anything about nature except our moods in proaction (my new word) or reaction to the environment we are in. Can you stop the tides? Can you change the rising of setting of the sun? No and no again but you can control or influence how you react to those events or the mood you are in or the moods others try to foist upon you.

Law of growth? What we think about grows! Think about the good stuff! Dream of the perfect life for you and the people around you. Forget about the things that you cannot control and focus on the things that you can control like you emotions, feelings and reactions to life.

 

 

Week 21 – Time For Family – As there Must Be

This week my lovely wife the Magnificent Maria had to have her wisdom teeth taken out so my schedule was reduced and we spent two entire evenings side by side. This should be the norm but for the past few years it has been rare. Running two businesses, learning a lot of new things about myself, about growing my businesses and raising a high school senior has had my head spinning.

Last night we sat and watched two movies together as it was the best night in a long time. We watched a fantastic animated movie called “Kubo and the Two Strings” which is now one of my favorite animated films. A true adventure with all the elements of the hero’s journey and some great music. The second movie was “Batteries Not Included” which a was also very entertaining and we both enjoyed it. It also had the elements of the hero’s journey.

This was a day that made me realize that I was not present in my family’s lives as much as I need to be both for them but especially for me. This was one of the first days I can say that I lived this day as if it was my last. Had I not woken up this morning my last day would have been my best.

How would you live today if it was you last? You will never know when that will be so do not wait to start living each day at full speed with all the gusto and enthusiasm you have. Don’t leave a drop of you heart unused when you head hits the pillow.

 

My name is Michael Puffer and I always keep my promises.

Og Mandino Scroll 5

Full reading of Scroll 5

Week 20 – More tools – Yes!

Each week we get more and more tools to help us develop our inner strengths and grow into to the person we intend to become. The last two weeks 19 and 20 of The Master Key System by Charles Haanel really sank in and I was again able to enjoy and prosper during my meditation “Sit.”

Week 19 part 27

“For your exercise this week, concentrate, and when I use the word concentrate, I mean all that the word implies; become so absorbed in the object of your thought that you are conscious of nothing else, and do this a few minutes every day. You take the necessary time to eat in order that the body may be nourished, why not take the time to assimilate your mental food?”

Mental food is silence and letting myself concentrate on the focus of my revised DMP with Liberty as my more correct Personal Pivotal Need (PPN) led me to delve deeper into what Liberty means to me. It isn’t about wealth but yet it is. More wealth means I will have time freedom and financial means to do what I need to do to to fulfill my dreams.

Week 20 Part 31

“For your exercise this week, go into the Silence and concentrate on the fact that “In him we live and move and have our being” is literally and scientifically exact! That you ARE because He IS, that if He is Omnipresent He must be in you. That if He is all in all you must be in Him! That He is Spirit and you are made in “His image and likeness” and that the only difference between His spirit and your spirit is one of degree, that a part must be the same in kind and quality as the whole. When you can realize this clearly you will have found the secret of the creative power of thought, you will have found the origin of both good and evil, you will have found the secret of the wonderful power of concentration, you will have found the key to the solution of every problem whether physical, financial, or environmental.”

We are all part of the universal whole and must believe it and concentrate on it to manifest our greatness sooner rather than later.

And this quote at the end of Week 20 part 31 is so clear and to the point – the power to think! We all have the power to think but we must think clearly and deeply to avoid and destroy our ability to repeatedly make mistakes.

“The power to think consecutively and deeply and clearly, is an avowed and deadly enemy to mistakes and blunders, superstitions, unscientific theories, irrational beliefs, unbridled enthusiasm, fanaticism.”

 -Haddock

Other tools this week given to us this week were these five faults as tools for expanding or to become better in our lives and businesses;

Fear, Guilt, Anger, Hurt Feelings and Unworthiness.

When you feel any of these faults and stop and think why you feel that it makes you prove to yourself why they are really excuses or lies your old thinking patterns have put in your way. The one that comes up the most in your life is probably the one that is holding you back. Overcome that fault and the rest will fall by the wayside and you WILL be stronger and forever changed for the better.

Below is an excerpt from the book

“DO IT!
Let’s Get Off Our Buts

A Guide to Living Your Dreams “

by Peter McWilliams

Henry Miller

“People often want to “get rid of” a “negative” emotion before attempting something new. That’s the same thing as saying, “I want to get rid of some of my energy.”

Fear, guilt, unworthiness, hurt feelings, and anger are, in fact, tools. Tools are neutral–they can be used either for us or against us. A knife can be used to heal or to hurt. A hammer can be used to build or to destroy. It is not the tool itself, but the way the tool is used that determines its benefit or detriment.

The difficulty lies in a fundamental misperception of “limiting” emotions. The limitation is not in the emotions themselves, but in the way we’ve been taught to perceive these emotions. We’ve been programmed with certain attitudes about certain feelings, and in the attitudes lie the limitations, not in the feelings.

In a sense, we play isometrics with our feelings and our attitudes. A certain feeling arises. An attitude says we shouldn’t have that feeling, and pushes it down. It’s like arm wrestling with ourselves–we can expend a lot of energy and work diligently, but not much is accomplished.

When we see how little gets done, we wonder (a) why so little was accomplished (“I tried so hard”), (b) why we’re so tired, or (c) both.”

Tools Rule. But they have to be sharp, appropriate and YOU have to use them.

My name is Michael Puffer and I always keep my promises.

 

Week 19 – Progress and picking up speed

This week was awesome. I started by reciting the question we were posed in our exercises;

“What would the person I intend to become do next?”

This question was written on a 3×5 card and placed on top of the nearly 100 index cards with statements of gratitude, life accomplishments and recollections of pleasant interactions with people every day. This card was on top so to “Stack the Deck” so the question had to be answered first every morning and every time I flashed my stacks of index cards.

I decided to record my recitation so I could use it in the car as I drive around. I read the first card in a straightforward way and then started read the rest of the cards. At first there was barely any emotion but as I ventured deeper in the stack I began to answer with more gusto and enthusiasm. I started to think of the sentences from each of the first five scrolls in the Greatest Salesman in the World book we have been studying and realized the answers were right in those scrolls. The sentences I carried over  answered the question like a beautiful soft leather glove of the perfect size. I have modified the sentences to be in the present tense.

“What would the person I intend to become do next?”

Carried over from scroll one;

“I walk tall among men and they know me not for today I am a new man with a new life”.

From scroll two;

“I succeed with love alone. I possess all the knowledge and skills of the world. I greet this day with love and I am succeeding.”

From scroll three;

“So long that there in breath in me, that long do I persist.  For now I know one of the greatest principles of success; I persist long enough and I am winning. I persist. I win.”

From scroll four;

“I am natures greatest miracle. I am not on this earth by chance. I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand. I apply all my efforts to become the highest mountain of all and I strain my potential until it cries for mercy.”

From scroll five;

This one nails the answer to the question “What would the person I intend to bWhat would the personecome do next?”

“I will live this day as if it is my last.”

Living each day as if it is my last is my answer to the question. No more holding back or pushing work to be done NOW into the future. Whatever needs to be done gets done today with all the enthusiasm and gusto I have in me. “Do It Now”

I made a new wallpaper for my phone to remind me of what is important – in every moment. When I am tempted to look at my phone for no apparent reason I will see this first.

The cement is getting thinner and there is more on the ground every day.

My name is Michael Puffer and I always keep my promises.

Week 18 – Breakthrough – YES!

This week was the week I have been waiting as I knew it would come if I was faithful to myself and the work we are doing in this Mater Key Experience. One of my biggest challenges was to wording a true emotion behind my Definite Major Purpose (DMP) in life or Dharma. I thought I had written it well but it was more like a checklist or list of steps rather that the forecast of who I will be in the future.

My DMP is to provide volunteer and financial assistance for families and friends of people who suffer traumatic brain injuries from motor vehicle accidents, slips and falls, strokes or other trauma to the brain. This assistance will begin within the first 5 hours and continue for the next 5 weeks or longer depending on the situation.

Here is how my week unfolded and my DMP came to life. A good friend posted on Facebook that a single mom friend of hers had a infant son in the ICU. My friend was asking for help with a “meal train” so the other children would have simple ready to eat meals. Without hesitation I posted asking what could I do with food or whatever. She mentioned that some snacks, etc for the kids back at home. I gathered the snacks and brought them to her in a nearby town. Other people have since donated gift cards, cash, and other items to help out.

After dropping off the groceries it reminded me that my family was in the same situation just over three years ago. My lovely wife was in a serious car accident and suffered a severe traumatic brain injury. Within few days friends and people we didn’t know started donating food, meals, gas cards etc. to us.

All these donations are well received and very helpful but as time goes on the needs may continue and will probably. And that is where my DMP comes in. An ongoing support network for persons with traumatic brain injuries to help organize volunteer efforts and find other resources for the families and friends. Some way to acquire or pay for lodging costs, onsite meals, parking, airfare – if the family is not near the hospital can they afford to fly and/or stay in the area? What about lost wages?

I don’t have all the details worked out in my head yet but the grassroots effort could benefit from social media such as Facebook pages to find out what is needed and how to get it to the right people. People who have been through similar things can lend their knowledge. Lists of resources both public and private that can provide emotional and financial support can be listed.

Every situation is unique but I believe the family finances will take a major hit in every case. This can be an incredible burden on the family. I will find a way to make available ~$500 per family or more to help defray the immediate costs for meals, lodging, airfare, etc. As time goes on I will find more money either in the form of donations or in finding other funding to compensate for lost wages, transportation, etc. In the longer term find a way for the family to become self sustaining with a work at home job that pays better than ever before or find a way to pay for someone to be at home with the injured person while the bread winner can get back to work.

My DMP coming to life was a great breakthrough and gave me the vision I needed of the end goal instead of the steps needed to accomplish it. How was I supposed to know the steps as I’ve never done what my DMP states? I concentrated (meditated) on the outcome more than the steps and the perfect situation arose and I jumped in and it made of my DMP crystal clear. This is going to be exciting!

 

My name is Michael Puffer and I always keep my promises.